The 12th element of Elements of life:
12 bridges back to you.
You, As much as anyone in the entire universe deserves your love and affection.
I once attended an amazing retreat facilitated by my good friend, Kim Stanwood Terranova. We spent days digging into our wounds, uncovering secret hurts, useless agreements we’d made with ourselves years ago, anger, resentment, fear, all of it. As we pulled back the layers searching for our own power to heal, at the root we found the need for one thing: self-love (which includes forgiveness of self). In every case, self-love was the answer to every need.
For me, I felt a lack of respect and appreciation in my home. It felt as if I wasn’t being considered even though I was the one providing the basic needs of the home, keeping everything running smoothly and everyone in sync. But after much contemplation I understood that no one considered my needs to relax and put the work down, because I wasn’t even considering my needs. I wouldn’t take the time I needed to relax. I kept pushing myself and expecting more and more of myself. And when I couldn’t meet my own expectations, I was disappointed in myself. How befitting that the way I felt I was regarded in my own home directly reflected the way I regarded myself. And I realized: “How can I ask someone to honor in me that which I’m not willing to honor in myself?”
This is simply love, Self-love.
John Du La Bruierre wrote:
‘A person’s worth in this world is estimated according to the value they put on themselves.’
I couldn’t agree more.
As the Holiday season ramps up and we busy ourselves with the needs, wishes and wants of others, let’s remember that we can only give the best of who we are to our friends and family by loving and honoring the best of who we are fist.
Here’s to a beautiful Holiday season.
With so much Love.